Category Archives: Fostering/Guardianship

My Love Will Not Let You Down

At this time of year, when the tills of florists, card shops and chocolate emporia go “ker-ching,” the world is suddenly filled with red heart-shaped helium balloons, and I’ve often been known to become a little cynical. I love ‘love’, … Continue reading


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Infertile. Me? No way, I’m Latina!

I’m soon to be 60, raising teenage brothers who my husband and I adopted from Ciudad Juárez, Chihuahua almost fifteen years ago. Being a Latina and native speaker definitely helped when we approached an orphanage in northern Mexico. Being a … Continue reading


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The Oldest Kindergartener

Last week, I walked my daughter to her first day of kindergarten. We did all the typical first-day things, the new backpack, the special outfit, lots and lots of photos on our front steps, the Facebook share of that first-day-of-kindergarten … Continue reading


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Step 4 (The Journey of a New Foster-to-Adopt Midlife Mom)

I attended a class on “how to become a foster and or adoptive parent” this past weekend.  The class consisted of me and five couples.  Three of the couples said were unable to have children and are considering adoption; two … Continue reading


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One Hero in a Community of Mothers

In my life, there are many mothers I respect and admire. Friends, family, colleagues, even strangers. Mothers I see in the world doing the right thing with children, showing small kindnesses, endless patience, needed discipline. Moms who have faced huge … Continue reading


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Step 3 (The Journey of a New Foster-to-Adopt Midlife Mom)

I have my foster parenting classes this weekend. I do not want to talk about my fear. I do not want to make those feelings bigger and more real by giving them life and breath. Yes, they are there.


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Step 2 (Journey of a New Foster-to-Adopt Midlife Mom)

I swear it took a full ten days,  if not more, for the social service agency to call me. I was starting to think they would not call, but they did, or rather, she did. The foster-parent recruiter or something … Continue reading


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Baby Steps: The Journey of a (Brand-New) Foster-to-Adopt Mom

Dear Reader, this is the first in a series by a 54-year-old single, childless woman who is in the beginning stages of pursuing foster-to-adopt.  She is excited. She is scared. She is also a midlife woman. We will follow her … Continue reading


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My Debunking of Myths Regarding Teens in Foster Care

Myth: Children do not want parents who are culturally or racially different. Fact: A child/teen wants a parent, a person they can lean on and who will be there, no matter what. As long as their race and ethnicity is … Continue reading


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