Category Archives: Adoption

The Wait

Dust is collecting on your bedroom furniture-you notice when you drag yourself out of bed an hour after your alarm has gone off.  You start circling the kitchen, trying to decide if you’re hungry or if you should wash the … Continue reading



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Books for Adoptive Moms and Their Children

As I navigate this crazy journey of being an adoptive mother, I have found that books have been one of my most valuable resources. For me — books are what give me guidance, sanity and a little bit of solidarity. … Continue reading



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Open Adoption: When What I Knew Was Wrong

When Roger and I embarked on the journey of adopting a baby several years ago, everything we “knew” about adoption was from decades past: You waited on a long list until the agency matched you with a situation. Top of … Continue reading



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The PTSD of Adoptive Parents

Emotions are celebrated and repressed, analyzed and medicated, adored and ignored — but rarely, if ever, are they honored – Karla McLaren I was driving to my doctor’s appointment when the morning radio host began talking about the second anniversary … Continue reading



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On Failure, Forgiveness and Cutting Ourselves Some Slack

Dear Reader: This is a reprint of a previous post. We forgot about “Gotcha Day.”  In the world of adoptive families, this is a significant faux-pas.  “Gotcha Day” is the celebration of bringing a non-biologic child into the family.  For … Continue reading



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Cyma Shapiro Interviews Liz Raptis Picco, Author of Stretch Marks

Dear Reader: I’m so pleased to present one of our own writers on the launch of her new book, Stretch Marks. Welcome Liz. I’m so happy to interview you and offer your story our readers. You are such a special … Continue reading



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The Birthing of Our Adoption (A Pre-Adoption Story)

There is a lot of focus during the adoption process on the children being adopted – as well there should be. They are only little children, after all, and going through circumstances they didn’t ask for or deserve. They are … Continue reading



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Should We Take The Only Thing They Have Left?

Perhaps we should. My wife and I decided that it was the right thing to change our children’s names as we adopted them. This happened across the board, from Jack, who was only a month old when he joined our … Continue reading



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The Myths and Realities of Open Adoption

Dear Reader: I first became interested in open adoption in 1985 when, in my clinical practice, I worked with two little guys adopted from foster care.  These boys, ages 7 and 8, were tormented by unanswered questions about their first … Continue reading



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Parenting Colour-Blind

I prayed for the woman in Haiti who would be the mother of the child we would be adopting. I felt in my heart it would be a little girl. The required adoption course seemed like a mundane step on … Continue reading



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