Category Archives: Adoption

Reflections of a Stay-at-Home-Mom (SAHM)

I became a mom at 45.  It wasn’t by design.  I met my husband at 35, married at 38, and we tried to start a family six months after we married.  To our surprise, that was no easy task. After … Continue reading



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Troubled Child Adoption

Troubled child adoption is about loving enough to accept not being trusted. I learned that by watching my wife’s example. I’ll give you fair warning… if you need compassion and are left to choose between my wife and me, go … Continue reading



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My Daughter’s Mothers

My three daughters were all adopted from China at older ages.  Despite the immense losses each of them have carried, they have loved me and accepted my affection and care without question. It doesn’t mean they have not hurt inside … Continue reading



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Adoptive Moms and Mother’s Day

When is a mom really a mom? When do we get to stand up and take the recognition being handed out in the Hallmark card aisle and the pews at church? In the newspapers and May issues of women’s magazines? … Continue reading



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Mother’s Day Month – Essay #1 – The Term “Real Mother” Confuses Us

Mothers’ Day has always been a tough one at our house. My wife, Amy, came from a home where she was abused by her father and her mother did nothing to stop it, as long as he provided the meal-ticket. … Continue reading



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The Wait

Dust is collecting on your bedroom furniture-you notice when you drag yourself out of bed an hour after your alarm has gone off.  You start circling the kitchen, trying to decide if you’re hungry or if you should wash the … Continue reading



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Books for Adoptive Moms and Their Children

As I navigate this crazy journey of being an adoptive mother, I have found that books have been one of my most valuable resources. For me — books are what give me guidance, sanity and a little bit of solidarity. … Continue reading



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Open Adoption: When What I Knew Was Wrong

When Roger and I embarked on the journey of adopting a baby several years ago, everything we “knew” about adoption was from decades past: You waited on a long list until the agency matched you with a situation. Top of … Continue reading



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The PTSD of Adoptive Parents

Emotions are celebrated and repressed, analyzed and medicated, adored and ignored — but rarely, if ever, are they honored – Karla McLaren I was driving to my doctor’s appointment when the morning radio host began talking about the second anniversary … Continue reading



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On Failure, Forgiveness and Cutting Ourselves Some Slack

Dear Reader: This is a reprint of a previous post. We forgot about “Gotcha Day.”  In the world of adoptive families, this is a significant faux-pas.  “Gotcha Day” is the celebration of bringing a non-biologic child into the family.  For … Continue reading



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