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Researchers have shed light on the possible links between maternal age and autism. While much research has been done to identify potential genetic causes of autism, the new study led by Sven Sandin, of the Karolinska Institutet, Sweden, and King`s College, London, suggests that non-heritable and environmental factors may also play a role in children`s risk for autism. Read more at: http://zeenews.india.com/news/health/diseases/higher-maternal-age-may-predict-kids-autism-risk_16724.html.



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Just Being A Mother

Dear Reader: This is another reprint of a previously posted essay. Nearly every year I read or rerun it, simply to get perspective on my life. During this month of Mother’s Day, I hope it provides something for you, too!

When I began my first midlife mother’s project – the art gallery show NURTURE: Stories of New Midlife Mothers -  and then began writing about related topics, I was grappling with my truths: about coming into motherhood at a much later age; about my impending middle age; about the “Change of Life” and all that it brings; and about reinventing oneself and all that it means, especially once I’d gone past the century mark (sssshhhhh). Continue reading



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Mother’s Day (Revisited II)

From My Stepson

I wrote this blog post a few years ago for MotherhoodLater, and reprinted it last year. This year, I’ve decided to run it again. In fact, I may make this an annual occasion.  I’ve also decided to reprint the older photo of my stepson’s first real Mother’s Day present to me – flowers – as a backdrop for this – a reminder of how being a mother to my four children (in two generations) has truly made me happy and proud.

It’s amazing how one year can change things;  how motherhood makes us forget what happened when our children were younger or youngest; how they came into our lives and what changes we needed to make once they were here.  I can honestly say that I am nearly fully comfortable in my Motherhood-clothes, a role that I played well in the beginning, but one that I now don each day with ease in the same way that I donned singlehood for many, many years. I won’t say that there aren’t days I wish I could wake up, yawn, and go down for coffee all on my own time, my own rhythm. I will say, however, that I’m the happiest that I’ve ever been – now that I have children. Continue reading



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Nurturing Your Mom on Mother’s Day With More Than Chocolates

Sending flowers, candy and greeting cards are de rigueur for mom on Mother’s Day but, as members of the Baby Boomer generation, we recognize that what your aging mother really wants on her special day is to feel nurtured. Continue reading



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I Will Honor Her (In Honor of My Daughter’s Birth Mother)

“Can you imagine that someone just threw her away?”

Seven years later, these words are still as sharp and wrong as the day they were innocently uttered. Carrying our youngest daughter into church that day, I did not turn around to see who said them. It did not matter.

Though I have been known to set a few folks straight about China’s one-child policy and its subsequent boom in international adoption, this time I chose to let it pass. It was Easter Vigil and our daughter’s day – she was being marked by baptism as Christ’s own forever. And she was ours forever. Continue reading



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Mother’s Day Quotes

If you bungle raising your children, I don’t think whatever else you do well matters very much – Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis

Of all the rights of women, the greatest is to be a mother – Lin Yutang

Mothers are all slightly insane – J.D. Salinger

I take a very practical view of raising children. I put a sign in each of their rooms: “Checkout Time is 18 years – Erma Bombeck

The phrase “working mother” is redundant - Jane Sellman

My mom said she learned how to swim. Someone took her out in the lake and threw her off the boat. That’s how she learned how to swim. I said, ‘Mom, they weren’t trying to teach you how to swim’ – Paula Poundstone

I’m a mother with two small children, so I don’t take as much crap as I used to – Pamela Anderson



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Healing (A Mother’s Journey)

A mother’s journey is to heal. From the moment you begin to contemplate life with children, you will come face to face with your thorniest unresolved issues. You will uncover ancient hurts around your own childhood and the mothering that was given you (or not). Embrace this singular opportunity for healing. Remain open to a flood of emotions and flow with them until you find a healing peace. Give yourself room to heal and know that you heal for those who came before you and those who now follow. Create new endings to old, tired stories of loss and betrayal. Inspire your children with new legacies and new, life-affirming ways. Take bold steps to change painful patterns passed down through generations. Seek out the medicine that strengthens you and take authority for your own healing. Every mother who heals herself, heals her children, too.

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Kids on Summer Vacation: A Working Parent’s Dilemma

For families, June is a busy time with graduation parties, little league championships and music recitals. And we all know that right around the corner is summer vacation – lazy days for kids but often stressful for working parents. So if you haven’t nailed down your plans yet, here are some ideas that can help with your work/life balance:

Stay flexible. To minimize your anxiety and maximize time with your kids, try to negotiate a flexible work schedule. Even if you only take the odd morning off or leave early once in a while, find someone to cover for you. Downtime to rejuvenate is important for you and for the wellbeing of your family. Continue reading



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Health

My daughter has become fascinated by health – good and bad – since she turned 4. Four is a year for discussions about death and sex, I’ve been warned by friends. It’s been true, so far, but far more interesting than either is health – what is good for us, what is bad for us. Her fascination with exercise, healthy eating and the horrors of smoking, among other things, is fodder for daily discussion. And while I’m all for healthy discussion about nearly anything, the talk of health hits me just as I’m occasionally starting to feel old. Or not old, exactly, but a little tired. Continue reading



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